How long ago did this hookup happen? 6 yrs
What was your relationship status at the time? In a relationship (monogamous)
How would you best classify this hookup? Short fling
How long did you know the person before this hookup? For less than a week
Tell us about your PARTNER(S). What did they look like? How well did you know them, had you hooked up before? How/Where did you meet them? How did you feel about them before the hookup? Slim/smallish maybe 5’5″, very shy and pretty. One of those home-trained respectful types. So my friend from college who also lived next door and a devout christian invited me to a Wednesday bible study session at his church. Knowing very well I would refuse, he playfully enticed me with a promise to introduce me to one of the new students in town for the freshman class who was also visiting the church. We picked this chic up on campus and I introduced myself. She was all this while on the phone speaking to her boyfriend. She told me she was seriously in a long distance relationship. We parted ways after the service after I took her phone number.
How/where did the hookup BEGIN? What led to it? Was planning involved? Who instigated it? There was a planned all-night church service on Friday two days after we first met. I invited her to come over and chill at my place for a couple of hours and that i would drop her off to church.
What happened DURING the hookup? What sexual behaviors took place (e.g., oral, vaginal, anal, kinky stuff)? How did you feel during it? How did they behave toward you? Were they a good lover? What did you talk about? How did it end? Whilst wasting time talking, watching a movie and her occasionally talking to her man on the phone, I had a sense that she might not end up in church. Around 2 am, I felt tired and decided to go to bed. I left her in the living room by herself and a couple minutes later, she joined me asking if it was ok to sleep on my bed as well. I gladly agreed. Whilst on the bed, I made a move to kiss her and she didn’t resist. I slipped my fingers into her tight wet pussy and she moaned. She confessed she was a virgin. Asked her if I should stop and she nodded in the negative. After some fingering, taking her word to be a virgin, I slipped the head of my dick into her moist pussy. She moaned and asked me to just do it. I pushed a bit further and to my surprise, she seemed to enjoy it. I later put on a condom and she turned over to ride my dick. after 2 rounds, we had worn out and she cleaned up, slept over. I woke up early to avoid detection from my friend next door. I dropped her off on campus.
How sexually satisfying was this hookup? Very
Did you have an orgasm? Yes, more than one
Did your partner have an orgasm? Yes, one
What happened AFTER the hookup? How did you feel about it the next day? What are/were your expectations/hopes for the future with this person? How do you feel about them now? I really enjoyed it and even though she vowed it wasn’t gonna happen again, I thought otherwise. I was right. We are good friends now. She’s cool with my wife and children.
What precautions did you take to prevent STIs and pregnancy? (Check all that apply) Condoms
What were your motives for this hookup? Fun, pleasure, horniness, Attraction to partner(s)
How intoxicated were you? Not at all (no alcohol or drugs)
How intoxicated was your partner? Not at all (no alcohol or drugs)
How wanted was this hookup for you at the time? Somewhat
Did you consent to this hookup at the time? I gave enthusiastic consent
How wanted was this hookup for your partner at the time? Somewhat
Did your partner(s) consent to this hookup? They gave enthusiastic consent
To whom did you talk about the hookup? How did they react? My friend next door eventually, but after about 4 more encounters with her, most of my friends got to find out.
How would you best summarize people’s reactions about this hookup? Other
Did you get emotionally hurt as a result of this hookup? Not at all
Did your partner get emotionally hurt as a result of this hookup? A little bit
Do you regret this hookup? Not at all
What was the BEST thing about this hookup? Fun
What was the WORST thing about this hookup? Didn’t last
Has this hookup changed the way you think about casual sex, sexuality, or yourself in general? No
All things considered, how POSITIVE was this experience? Somewhat positive
All things considered, how NEGATIVE was this experience? Not at all negative
Anything else you want to add about this hookup? Partner sometimes convinces herself that this never happened. lol. Totally happened over 4x.
What are your thoughts on casual sex more generally, the role it has played in your life, and/or its role in society? What would you like to see changed in that regard? I haven’t had as much casual sex but one needs to weigh the consequences of such actions. If one can live with the moral repercussions, go for it.
What do you think about the Casual Sex Project? Amazing
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